This is easy, praise be to Allaah, and it is safer and better than doing that via the internet.Thirdly: In order for the marriage to be valid, it is essential to have the consent of the woman’s guardian (wali), because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage except with a wali.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (2085), al-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Maajah (1881) from the hadeeth of Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.I do not have any family in this country and I want to get married.Is it permissible for me to use the internet and the matrimonial websites to get married?"The only evidence that they had that the other person existed before their marriage night was simply a small black-and-white picture and the good wishes of a couple of relatives," he says."That's all they knew." Shaikh's parents are Muslim and they lived in India at the time of their wedding back in the 1970s.At home, "there was no such thing as the words dating or relationships.
They each had different experiences, depending on the family, culture and the country where they come from.Although Irshad's family isn't aganist her dating, they have taken things into their own hands."My parents and my grandparents are constantly asking other people, anyone they meet 'do you know anyone good for my daughter? Irshad says her parents aren’t pushing her into a marriage, rather "helping" in the process.“Lots of grandmothers and aunties, they have these folders full of bio-data and they’re passing them around and saying, look at this girl, look at this guy, it’s like trading cards,” she says.
Bio-data are what Irshad calls "dating resumes." Many young Muslims feel like they're in limbo: An arranged marriage is out of the question, but they don't want to disrespect their family and religion. " — was the topic of conversation at a recent gathering of Muslim college students in Boston.
Rather the administrators of the site should first check on the identity of the suitor, then put him in touch with the guardian (wali) of the woman.